Attending preschool in Singapore is an exciting milestone in a child’s early childhood education journey, but it can also be accompanied by a common challenge known as separation anxiety. As parents, it is essential to understand this natural phase and learn how to support your little one through it. 

In this blog, we will explore what separation anxiety entails, its signs and symptoms, its impact on a child’s emotional development, and most importantly, valuable tips to help your child overcome it.

Keep reading to find out more. 

What is preschool separation anxiety?

It refers to the distress a child experiences when separating from their parents or primary caregivers, especially when starting preschool. While it is heartwrenching to witness tears when sending your child to a preschool, separation anxiety is also a normal part of a child’s emotional development often triggered by the fear of being apart from their loved ones in an unfamiliar environment.

What are the signs and symptoms of preschool separation anxiety?

Recognising the signs of preschool separation anxiety is crucial in helping your child navigate this challenging time. Look out for the following indicators:

• Crying or fussiness
  
  Your child may cry or become fussy when faced with the prospect of being apart from you.
  
  
• Panic or fear of being alone
  
  They might express fear or panic at the thought of being alone or away from their trusted caregivers.
  
  
• Refusal to leave the parent or caregiver 
  
  Your child may cling to you, reluctant to leave your side.
  
  
• Sleep pattern changes
  
  Separation anxiety can disrupt your child’s sleep routine, leading to difficulty falling asleep, nightmares, or other disturbances.
  
  
• Regression in behaviour 
  
  Look out for signs of regression, such as bedwetting or thumb-sucking. 
  
  
• Physical symptoms
  
  Your child may complain of headaches or stomachaches due to anxiety.
  
  
• Loss of appetite
  
  Anxiety might cause a loss of appetite or even weight loss.
  
  
• Tantrums upon separation 
  
  Strong emotions during drop-off can result in tantrums.
  

What is the impact of preschool separation anxiety on a child’s emotional development?

Preschool separation anxiety, if not addressed properly, can have lasting effects on a child’s emotional well-being and development. It may lead to:

• Insecurity and low self-esteem
  
  Your child may feel less confident and worry that they are not good enough.
  
  
• Interference with social skills development
  
  They might struggle with making friends, expressing emotions, and engaging in activities without parental supervision. 
  
  
• Overdependence on parents and caregivers
  
  Excessive anxiety can hinder your child’s ability to explore new experiences and environments independently.
  

How can you help your child with preschool separation anxiety?

As parents, there are several effective strategies you can employ to ease your child’s separation anxiety to prepare them for attending preschool in Singapore: 

• Talk about feelings
  
  Encourage open communication, validate your child’s feelings and help them find healthy ways to express themselves. 
  
  
• Preparation is key
  
  Familiarise your child with the idea of preschool beforehand by discussing it positively.
  
  
• Practise separation at home
  
  Gradually introduce short periods of separation at home to build their comfort level.
  
  
• Preschool visits
  
  Arrange visits to a preschool in Singapore to acclimate them to the new environment.
  
  
• Positive goodbye routine
  
  Establish a loving and reassuring goodbye routine to create a sense of security.
  
  
• Stay calm and reassuring
  
  Be composed during drop-offs and offer words of encouragement.
  
  
• Punctuality matters
  
  Be on time for pick-ups to build trust and security.
  
  
• Encourage sharing
  
  Quality preschool education encompasses both fun and educational activities that your child will benefit from. After a day in school, let your child share what they did with you when they return home and offer them undivided attention during this time. 
  
  
• Stick to a routine
  
  Consistency and predictability help alleviate anxiety in preschool kids. 
  
  
• Be patient and understanding
  
  Acknowledge that it takes time for your child to adjust to preschool so be patient throughout the process. Be there with them every step of the way and do not expect overnight improvements. 
  
  

When does it become separation anxiety disorder and when should you seek help?

While preschool separation anxiety is common, some cases might be more severe and persistent. It is important to seek professional assistance if your child’s anxiety is excessive, causing significant distress and negatively impacting their ability to function at home or school.

If you have concerns, do not hesitate to talk to your child’s preschool teacher or a healthcare professional for guidance.

Tiny Steps, Giant Leaps

Preschool separation anxiety is a natural phase that many children experience as they embark on their educational journey. By recognising the signs, understanding the impact, and implementing the right strategies, parents can provide the necessary support to help their child navigate this period of adjustment successfully. With love and patience, your child will flourish in their early childhood education experience.

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